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What is a Swingers Club A Beginner's Guide Etiquette & Rules

Since swingers clubs prioritise, and revolve, around consent and respect, good etiquette is essential for maintaining a comfortable environment. While specific rules (both written and unwritten) vary by venue most clubs enforce common guidelines to ensure a respectful, comfortable and enjoyable experience.

Understanding Common Etiquette & Rules
  • Membership & screening - Many clubs require memberships, applications, or even interviews to maintain a safe environment.
  • Couples vs singles - Some clubs are couples only, some clubs allow single men while limiting numbers to maintain a comfortable ratio. Single women are usually always welcomed.
  • Attitude - Verbal or physical abuse directed at fellow guests or staff will not be tolerated and will usually result in your removal from the club. Abuse also may be reported to authorities.
  • Dress appropriately - Many clubs have a dress code, usually sexy but classy. Lingerie for women, men might be expected to wear dress shoes and a collared shirt.
  • Consent is essential - Always ask before touching or joining any situation. "May I/we join you?" is a simple, polite way to gauge interest. If someone declines an invitation, don't take it personally, respect their decision and move on. A 'no' is final and should be respected without question. The idea is to make sure everyone is comfortable, and consent is paramount.
  • Respect boundaries - Respect for boundaries is central, even if you're not looking to engage with others physically, it's important to be polite, respectful, and non-pushy in your interactions. Be aware of body language and don't assume anything. Some couples just want to socialise, some just like to watch or be watched, others prefer soft swapping (kissing, oral) rather than full swaps. Always clarify comfort levels. If someone isn't engaging with you, don't take it personally.
  • Privacy & discretion - Respect others' need for privacy, avoid discussing what happens at the club with anyone outside. Privacy is important in these environments with many clubs having strict privacy policies. Understand that many people prefer to remain anonymous.
  • Hygiene - Cleanliness is crucial, be clean, well-groomed, and fresh. Many clubs provide showers and essentials like hygiene products, towels and mints. Freshen up before and after play.
  • Safe sex policies - Most clubs expect guests to practice safe sex and use protection during any intimate activities, some clubs have strict 'safe sex only' policies and require the use of protection. It's common to have hygiene stations where condoms, lubrication, and other safety supplies are provided.
  • Respect the staff - Club staff ensure a smooth experience and enforce the rules. If they say something, listen.
  • No phones/cameras - Privacy and discretion are a top priority so expect a phone and photography ban in play areas to protect everyone's anonymity. Some clubs will hold you phone at reception, some clubs prohibit phones altogether with them being left in the lockers.
  • Intoxication - Drinking is usually allowed, but being too drunk is frowned upon and you may be asked to leave. Most clubs have a zero-tolerance policy on drugs and anyone found using or carrying will be asked to leave immediately.
  • Smoking/vaping - Most clubs have a private outside, covered smoking area. Limited vaping is usually allowed inside most venues.
  • Chewing gum - Getting hot and sticky is all part of the fun, but most clubs ban chewing gum.